I’ll be happy when…

Have you ever caught yourself saying the following? “I’ll be happy when..”

  • We own our own home…
  • The mortgage is paid…
  • The kids sleep through the night…
  • My boss quits and I get some peace at work…
  • The school holidays are over…
  • My son gets a new school teacher…

Guilty as charged – I used to find myself saying things like all of the time. I believed that my happiness was caused by external factors miraculously falling into place. What I realised over time though was that my happiness didn’t increase when these external factors fell into place. Strangely, I just found more external desires to replace them. Like…

  • We own our own home but now we have to pay for it! (I’ll be happy when the mortgage is paid off)
  • The mortgage is paid but I don’t like this house anymore (I’ll be happy when we get a nicer house)
  • The kids are sleeping through but geez 2 year olds are hard work! (I’ll be happy when we’re over the toddler stage)

You see, telling yourself that your happiness is dependent on external factors falling into place is like telling yourself there’s a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. You’re NEVER going to get there to find out because the end of the rainbow doesn’t exist!

True happiness lies within yourself. It’s about finding peace and happiness in every moment and stage of your life no matter what difficulties you’re experiencing. It’s about turning every negative into a positive:

  • I am so very blessed to have a beautiful home and a good job so that I can pay my mortgage off. I’m blessed to just have a mortgage!
  • Even though I find it tiring to get up at night to my kids, I truly cherish those moments in the dark hours when it’s just me and him, cuddling softly and breathing each other’s breath
  • The school holidays are challenging towards the end, but when I make it fun and focus on the kids I know we’re making memories that will last a lifetime

Challenging your thoughts like this is so important for true health. It’s proven that focusing on positives, meditating daily, doing yoga and other meditative practices lowers your stress levels, anxiety, helps to reduce depression and improves your general wellbeing significantly.

You will not ‘be happy when…’. Happiness is inside of you today, you just need to tap into it!

If you want to learn how to start tapping into your inner happiness then join me on March 1st in Barwon Heads for ‘Australia’s Ultimate Yoga Event For Mums’. It will be the beginning of a truly life changing experience for you and your family’s happiness. 3 days left on early bird tickets!

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